One of the most common issues I hear among all of the women I talk to is the fear of failure…and it’s paralyzing.
Do you agree that the fear of failure is universal? Regardless of what we fear, there are times when we are shackled with the inability to move because of all the ‘what ifs’ that could happen (or rather not happen) as a result of taking that step forward.
WHAT IF. Why do we allow two words or six letters to control us? Seriously, why are we are so paralyzed by what may not happen that we lose focus on what could happen?
Instead we are quick to protect ourselves by only doing those things that feel “safe” to us or following what we “know” to be true.
Sure you’ve failed just like I have! You know what? Who cares! And you know what else? I bet you learned from those failures and won’t repeat them – now you know what better to do that only takes you closer to success and reaching your goals.
That’s the beauty if failure is that it’s sets you up for success! It’s a total waste of a failure if you don’t learn from it and use it to your advantage.
Do you also agree that the more we ponder over our own failures or what seems like failures, the bigger they get?
In the LIVE I did with my FB group, I encouraged my peeps to do these things to help take those thoughts under control.
How you can overcome your fear of failure:
- For one, say it aloud. Literally get those thoughts out of your head to take total control of those all-consuming, paralyzing lies. I’ve learned that when we can put those thoughts into the air, those struggles and problems that were so cancerous and ginormous in our head, soon don’t seem quite as big after all. It’s something freeing about saying it out loud.
- Secondly, talk to other women! (Eh hem, ya’ll, that’s what Women Over 40 Lose Weight Feel Great is for!) It’s also something freeing to realize you are not alone in those thoughts. The more those thoughts fester, the more we start to believe that we are the only ones who must think that way and that in itself is paralyzing. Talk to other women and realize that absolutely you are not alone. They could probably benefit from you taking the first move, too.
- Just do it. Yeah, I know that sounds trite, but bear with me. The reason I say just do it because sometimes that’s what it takes. Heaven knows we can’t wait to be motivated to step out all the time, because if we wait to be motivated then most likely we’ll never make the first move. So with that you just have to make the decision and do it. Stop overthinking it, stop letting your emotions get the best of you and decide intellectually that you just gotta do it.
Forget motivation; it’s a myth. I don’t know when we all bought into the idea that in order to change you must “feel” eager or “feel” motivated to act. It’s complete garbage. The moment it’s time to assert yourself, you will not feel motivated. In fact you won’t feel like doing anything at all. If you want to improve your life, you’ll need to get off your rear end and kick your own butt. ~Mel Robbins #5secondrule
Just when you think you’ve done it all, tried it all, consider this: You do not know what you do not know. Meaning, while you may have done it all, tried it all, you’ve only done what YOU know to try and do.
What is it you’re missing out on while you sit in the safety of your comfort zone? What possibilities are waiting for you simply because you do not know what you do not know?
Let me know if any of this resonates or speaks to you!
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